Ngokuqinisekileyo ngaxa lithile ebomini bakho Une stress, uphila nexhala ungazi ukuba kuzakwenzeka ntoni, uye wanoloyiko oluthile okanye une obsessive disorder.. Ayikude kangako. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba ndikuxelele ukuba kukho incwadi enokukunceda ukoyise konke oko? Imalunga nendlela yokuphila ngaphandle koloyiko, nguRafael Santandreu.
Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi ukuba imalunga nantoni? Ngaba iyasebenza ngokwenene? Emva koko jonga ulwazi esikuqokelele lona.
Isishwankathelo sendlela yokuphila ngaphandle koloyiko
Njengoko besinixelele ekuqaleni, Indlela yokuphila ngaphandle koloyiko yakhiwe kwiincwadi zokuzinceda. Oku kuthengiswa njengendlela yokuphelisa ukuxhalaba, i-OCD, i-hypochondria kunye naluphi na uloyiko olukuthintela ukuba uphile ngokufanelekileyo.
Umbhali wayo waziwa kakhulu, kwaye phantse zonke iincwadi azipapashayo zithengiswa kakhulu ngexesha elifutshane. Le, ngokukodwa, yapapashwa ngo-Epreli ka-2023 kwaye yaba nefuthe elikhulu, nangona ingazange ibe yimpumelelo njengenye enxulumene ngokuthe ngqo: Ukungoyiki. Kuloo ncwadi uya kufumana indlela yokuphila ngaphandle kwayo, kwaye oku Yingqokelela yezimvo, ubungqina kunye nemizekelo yendlela abanye abazisebenzisa ngayo iimfundiso zombhali.
Nalu ushwankathelo oluvela encwadini:
«Indlela yokuphila ngaphandle koloyiko ibandakanya ukukhethwa kobu bungqina, amanyathelo athathwe ngabalinganiswa kunye nobunzima abadibana nabo kwindlela yabo yokuphilisa. Aba ngabantu abancinci nabadala bazo zonke iintlobo (oogqirha, oosomashishini, abafundi, njl.njl.) abathi ngokufanayo benze owona msebenzi unamandla wophuhliso lomntu okhoyo. Olu khetho lwamabali, kunye nenkcazo yam yendlela kunye nemeko nganye, inenjongo enamandla: ukukukholisa into eyenziwa ngumntu wonke: "Ukuba ndiyakwazi ukuyenza, nawe unokukwenza."
Impumelelo yabo yinto abayifumeneyo kwaye kuphela abayifumeneyo, kwaye yile nto bayichazayo kula maphepha nakwiividiyo zeYouTube ezinxulumeneyo. Kwakungekho qhinga kwinto abayenzayo ukuze bachache. Umgudu nje omninzi, indlela ecacileyo kunye nokunyamezela ngobuninzi. Indlela yokuphuma ilapho, ekufikeleleni kwakho.
Uphononongo kunye nezimvo malunga Indlela yokuphila ngaphandle koloyiko
Amaxesha amaninzi, xa uthenga incwadi, izimvo ziyabala. Nangona umntu ngamnye wahlukile yaye oko akuthandayo kusenokungafani komnye, inyaniso kukuba xa singaqinisekanga, siye sibhenele ekujongeni indlela abanye abacinga ngayo.
Kwaye kwimeko yeNdlela yokuPhila ngaphandle koloyiko, unayo izimvo ezahlukeneyo kumaqonga okuthengisa aphambili: iAmazon, iCasa del libro, iFnac… kunye nakwiGoodreads, apho unokufumana kwakhona uphononongo (ngamanye amaxesha oluthe ngqo kwaye luneenkcukacha).
Ezinye zeembono esizifundileyo kwiAmazon zezi zilandelayo:
"Yincwadi yokuzinceda kwaye ikufundisa ubuchule boxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba kwaye ikunika ulwazi lokuyisebenzisa. Ndiyayincoma. "
"Yincwadi eluncedo kakhulu, ebonisa iimeko kunye nendlela yakhe, ngokoqobo leyo ecetywayo kwaye kuthiwa ihlanganiswe ngaphandle kwemida yethu, eyaphuhliswa nguGqr. Ukuzinceda kwi-nerve yakho, indlela yamanyathelo amane ngokuqinisekileyo ingenelelo ephazamisayo esebenzayo, esasazwa eYurophu nguGiorgio Nardone, umdali we-Brief Strategic Therapy nayo isekelwe kumsebenzi wee-Weekes, uvulindlela oyinyaniso. Kwimeko engacacanga, ngamanye amaxesha awuyazi ukuba ufunda umbhali omnye okanye omnye, ekugqibeleni indlela ilula kwaye iyasebenza kangangokuba ayifuni amaphepha ambalwa ekuboniseni kwayo.
«Ndandiyilindele ngokwenene indlela, isikhokelo, kodwa ngokusisiseko ndifumene incwadi yobungqina obuvela kubantu abaye basebenzisa le ndlela, apho umbhali ekhomba ngokulula. Bonke ngamava aphumeleleyo, ngokucacileyo, kodwa ndikhumbula ubunzulu obungakumbi kunye nengcaciso yenkqubo. Kukho enye incwadi ebhalwe ngulo mbhali mnye, “Ngaphandle Koloyiko,” egxininisa ngakumbi kwinkqubo yakhe.
Ngokubanzi, izimvo ezifunyenweyo zilungile, nangona uninzi, njengakwinkcazo yokugqibela, lubhekisa kwinto yokuba Umbhali ugxininisa ngakumbi ekuboniseni imizekelo kunye nobungqina obuvela kwabanye abantu, kodwa kungekhona ekuchazeni indlela ngokwayo. Oku kunokuba sisicwangciso, ngakumbi kuba umbhali unencwadi yangaphambili apho achaza indlela yakhe. Ngoko ke, Indlela yokuphila ngaphandle koloyiko inokuba sisihlomelo kuleyo yangaphambili, enikela imizekelo esebenzisekayo, efundisa indlela yakhe.
URafael Santandreu, umbhali wale ncwadi
Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku unombono wento onokuyifumana kwincwadi, akunjalo? Kodwa kusafuneka wazi kancinci malunga nombhali.
Ukuba sele umazi, uya kwazi ukuba uRafael Santandreu ngumbhali odumileyo, oneempapasho ezininzi emarikeni, zonke zizinceda. Kodwa wazi ntoni ngaye?
URafael Santandreu Lorite yingcali yengqondo. Wazalelwa eBarcelona kwaye, kangangexesha elithile, wayengunjingalwazi kwiYunivesithi yaseRamon Llull.
Unike iikhosi, iintetho, iintetho… kootitshala, oogqirha, iisayikholojisti kunye nabafundi bakhe kwiinkcazo-ntetho zeencwadi. Ukongeza, uye wasebenzisana namajelo eendaba afana nephephancwadi iMente Sana okanye kwiinkqubo zikamabonwakude ezifana nePara todos la 2 okanye i-A punto con La 2.
Enye ye eyona misebenzi ibalulekileyo yalo mbhali, kwaye eyona nto yamenza waduma yeyoBugcisa bokungabenza bubi ubomi, eyapapashwa ngo-2013. Ukususela ngaloo nyaka, uye wapapasha onke la manqaku alandelayo aluncedo.
Umsebenzi wamva nje wombhali (ukusuka ngo-2024) uthi Musa ukwenza iintaba ngaphandle kweMoors.
Ngoku kukuwe ukugqiba enoba incwadi ethi, Indlela Yokuphila Ngaphandle Koloyiko yenye yezo ubungathanda ukuzifunda. Ingcebiso yam kukuba, ukuba awukayifundi le ncwadi, ungoyiki, uqale ngayo kuqala, kuba kulapho uya kufumana khona iziseko zaloo ndlela. Le ncwadi iya kukunceda ngakumbi ukuba ubone indlela abanye abaye bayisebenzisa ngayo inkqubo kunye noko baphumeleleyo (uhlobo lwepilisi yokukhuthaza ukuba uqale ukwazi ukuba abanye baphumelele).