Ubudlelwane bokuPhilisa: Iincwadi eziBalaseleyo kwiiNkwenkwezi zeNtsapho
Amakroza osapho lunyango oluguquguqukayo olwenziwe ngugqirha wengqondo, umfundisi-ntsapho, kunye nowayesakuba ngumfundisi wamaKatolika uBert Hellinger. Ubukho bayo bufuna ukusombulula iingxabano phakathi kwamalungu e-filial circle, ukwandisa ukuzazi kunye nokukhuthaza utshintsho oluhle lomntu. Ungquzulwano lulungiswa ngokwembono ecwangcisiweyo, esekwe kwifiziksi, ibhayoloji, kunye ne-epigenetics yokuziphatha.
Ngokufanayo, amaqela eentsapho ajolise ekuboneni iintlobo zobudlelwane obusekwe phakathi kwamalungu enkqubo yentsapho. Ngoko, ithatha ilungu ngalinye kungekhona njengomntu oyedwa, kodwa njenge-archetype eyimele kwiqela leenkwenkwezi. Ukuba ungathanda ukufunda konke ngayo, siyakumema ukuba ufunde ukhetho lwethu lwezona ncwadi zibalaseleyo kumaqela eenkwenkwezi osapho.
Iincwadi ezigqwesileyo kumakroza osapho
Ziphi iingqekembe?: Ibali likatata wethu (2008), nguJoan Garriga Bacardi
Eli libali labantu abadala abanesiseko esilandelayo: isitshixo somnyango wokuzaliseka senziwe ngegama elinye: ewe. Kule ncwadi, isazi ngengqondo yomntu kunye nelungu eliseka i-Institut Gestalt, uJoan Garriga, utyhila umba obalulekileyo osikhathazayo sonke: ukwenza inkqubo yokwamkela imvelaphi yethu kunye nelifa lookhokho bethu ukuze, ngale nto, sifumane indawo emhlabeni.
Umbhali ukwabonelela ngezixhobo—kokubini kwabo bajonga abazali babo ngothando nakwabo babajonga ngengqumbo—ukufumana indlela yokuxolelana nokuziphatha namava athile, ukuveza indlela yokufuna uxolo lukabani nokoyisa imiqobo namanxeba abaninzi abawathwalayo kubo bonke ubomi babo.
Iingcaphuno ezivela kuJoan Garriga Bacardi
- "Yonke into inomzuzu wayo ebomini: umzuzu wokufika, umzuzu wokuhlala, kunye nomzuzu wokuhamba. Isiqingatha sobomi sichithwa ukunyuka intaba kwaye sikhwaza eluphahleni, "Ndikhona." Kwaye esinye isiqingatha sesokwehla kwi-nothingness ekhanyayo, apho yonke into idibene, ivuyisa kwaye ibhiyozela.
- "Singakhula ngelixa sizikhusela, kodwa sikhula ngakumbi xa siyeka ukwenza oko, kuba ukukhula kokwenene kwenzeka xa umntu ngamnye ejongene nokoyikayo okanye into akholelwa ukuba ayikho."
Ulonwabo oluhlala luhleli. izinto ezibalulekileyo zamakroza osapho (2017), nguBert Hellinger
Asinakuthetha ngamakroza amalungu osapho singasathethi ke ngencwadi yombhali owayiqala yonke. Kwisicatshulwa sakhe, Umbhali uthi ukucamngca luqheliselo ekunokwenzeka ngalo ukunxibelelana nomntu wangaphakathi. ukuze kuzuzwe olona lonwabo luhlala luhleli, olo lungapheli phambi kongquzulwano oluncinci. Ngenxa yoko, kunokwenzeka ukufumana ukwaneliseka kubudlelwane kunye nobudlelwane bosapho.
Le ncwadi ikwagxininisa kwingcamango yokuba "Intlalontle isekelwe kwintlonipho yomyalelo ofihlakeleyo weenkqubo zentsapho" nasekufezekiseni uthando kubudlelwane bethu," kuba kukwixesha lamva apho siphumla kubomi basendle bemihla ngemihla, okusivumela ukuba sizive sikhuselekile kwindawo ehlala inesiphithiphithi. Xa wonke umntu esihlala naye enendawo, wonke umntu ukhethekile.
Ucatshulwa nguBert Hellinger
- "Kuyimfuneko ukuya ngaphaya kwemida yokulungileyo nokubi, yetyala kunye nokucamagushela (...) kwaye uzibeke kwinqanaba lesiphelo, se-Self yokugqibela, yothando olunyulu (...)".
- "Khumbula into ebinzima okanye ebuhlungu ebomini bakho. Thetha: Ndizifaka entliziyweni yam zonke ezo zinto njengokuba zenzekile kwaye ndiza kwenza okuthile ngazo. Oku kuye kwandivumela ukuba ndikhule. Enkosi".
- «Intshukumo ezimiseleyo yomphefumlo wethu obangela ukugula luthando lwebhondi. Olo thando lusimanyanisa nentsapho yethu kunye nekamva layo.
Uthando lokwenyani kwisibini: xa enye idibanisa enye ingaphezulu kwesibini (2022), nguJoan Garriga
Umbhali uqala kwindawo engaqondakaliyo: "Ndineendaba ezimnandi: akukho mntu unokukukhathaza. Kwaye ndineendaba ezimbi: akukho mntu unokukuvuyisa. Oku kuthetha ukuba ulonwabo lwethu luxhomekeke kwiingcamango nakwizenzo esizithathayo kubomi bethu bonke. Ngokucacileyo, yintanda-bulumko efana ne-stoicism, apho eyona nto ibalulekileyo yindlela esisabela ngayo ebomini.
Le ayisiyoncwadi malunga nento omawuyenze okanye ungayenzi kubudlelwane. Umbhali akazimiselanga ukucebisa ngobudlelwane obufanelekileyo, kodwa kunokuthetha malunga nobudlelwane obahlukeneyo, kunye neepatheni zabo kunye neendlela zokuphila. UJoan Garriga ukwajongana nemiba ehlala yenza okanye yaphula ubudlelwane, ezo zithako ezihlala zilahlekile okanye zingeyomfuneko.
Ulonwabo oluphindwe kabini. UBert Hellinger kunye ne-systemic psychotherapy yakhe (1999), nguGunhard Weber
Olu luphononongo olunzulu lweqela leenkwenkwezi zeentsapho kunye nokucinga kwezonyango kukaBert Hellinger, kuboniswe ngamehlo asondeleyo kunye nohlalutyo lukaGunthard Weber, omnye wabaxhasi bakhe ababalaseleyo kunye nabahleli. Kule ncwadi, UWeber uchaza imigaqo esisiseko ye-systemic psychotherapy eyenziwe nguHellinger.
Babhenca ukuguquguquka okungaziyo okukhoyo phakathi kweentsapho—njengokunyaniseka okungabonakaliyo, ikamva eliphindaphindiweyo, okanye ukuphazanyiswa kwamaqhina—aphembelela ngamandla ubomi babantu. Umbhali ubonisa indlela amakroza osapho azisa ngayo ezi ngxubevange zenkqubo ekukhanyeni., ukuququzelela ukuqonda okuphilisayo okunokuthi kuzise ucwangco, ukubakho, kunye noxolelwaniso.
Ukuphila emphefumlweni: ukuthanda into eyiyo, ukuthanda into esiyiyo kunye nokuthanda abo bakhoyo (2014), nguJoan Garriga Bacardi
Umbhali, ingcaphephe enamava neyaziwayo kwibala leGestalt kunye neenkwenkwezi zeentsapho, ubonisa abafundi indlela yokuzisa ucwangco kwiimvakalelo zabo nakubomi bangaphakathi. Umbhali ukwagxininisa ekunikezeleni kwimfihlakalo yobomi ukuphepha uxinzelelo., kwaye ufumane uxolo lwengqondo oluhlala luhleli. Isindululo sakhe silula kakhulu: thanda into eyiyo, thanda into esiyiyo kwaye ubathande abo banjalo.
Nangona kubonakala kunzima, uGarriga Bacardí uphakamisa ukufunda ukuqonda ngokuqonda kunye nokuhlala kwi-"Gregular Soul," ingcamango echaza indlela esinxibelelana ngayo namaqela entlalontle kunye nezinto. Isinyathelo esilandelayo kukuya kwi "Great Soul", ekuthi ngayo ube nokungqina ukuba uvela njani oyena mntu uyinyaniso. Ngokwale mbono, ubomi buba malunga nokwamkelwa.
Imiyalelo yothando. Iikhosi ezikhethiweyo nguBert Hellinger (2011), nguBert Hellinger
Lo ngumsebenzi osisiseko kaBert Hellinger, otyhila yonke ithiyori yakhe kunye nolwazi lwamakroza osapho. Emveni kweminyaka, Umbhalo uye waba sisixhobo esibalulekileyo sokunceda abantu abaninzi ehlabathini, ukuya ngaphaya kwendima yayo njengesixhobo sonyango lwengqondo. Kuhlelo luka-2011, umbhali umema abafundi ukuba bahlolisise indlela yobudlelwane babantu.
Oku, akukho nto kwaye akukho nto, kunokuba umendo wolwazi lwemiyalelo esele imiselwe uthando kunye nolunye ubudlelwane, ngenxa yokuba kukho izifo ezininzi ezivela ekuthandeni ngaphandle kobulumko, ukungazinaki imiyalelo ekhankanywe ngasentla. Ngaloo ndlela, Ukuziqonda kuba sisiqalo sokufumana izibonelelo, kokubini kuthi nakwindalo esingqongileyo.
